Transfer: This post was originally posted on our first site. The site that predated other author’s joining the page.
Literotica, at least at first, was the home of my long-form stories.
Home though it was, I learned quickly — like a night in, that it is not necessarily a safe place to receive feedback on my writing. Not because I am unable to take criticism, as I think all of you know, I go out of my way to mold by writing to what fans in this community — our community want. But instead, because that same community, is not the Literotica community.
As night one and on, I got comments and messages like:
“You’re messed up in the head.”
“There is something wrong with you.”
Not because I had told a bad story, or because I told a good story poorly, but instead because my fetish was not their’s.
Now, I totally get it, this fetish for female fighting and competition that I have — that we have, is not what most people are excited by. And to someone who doesn’t enjoy it, it must seem weird, sexist (which is funny), and even cruel.
Understand that though I do, I also know that humans are animals, advanced though we may be. Consequently, we have desires, lusts, and brains that are formed to want sexual excitements and enticements. And this fetish — this excitement, just so happens to be mine. And if you’re reading this, it also seems to be yours.
And though originally I planned on writing some kind of diatribe about everyone having their own darkness, and the norm, being in no way the right, I will refrain. Refrain and explain that though I love feedback, covet it, wanting to know exactly what makes my reads shiver and gasp as they read my words, I want that feedback to be from someone who understands. Someone who considers themselves my audience, even if at first we disagree on what the entertainment I provide should be.
Guided by the above, I turned off all feedback allowance on Literotica — banning votes, comments and messages.
And though I have slept better since making that decision, I have still gotten very useful feedback from those who found my works there. For the true fans of our genre persisted, clicked through to my site, and sought out how to email me, just to give me the feedback they couldn’t give on Literotica.
Have I missed out on useful comments, needed critiques, and even positive reinforcement? I have no doubt. But for me, it was the only call I could make, to avoid being kinkshamed on the regular.